tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175223805605113309.post2425292073414126577..comments2024-02-07T00:07:52.352-08:00Comments on Turning Stones Blog: Hard choicesIndiri Woodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07107905468709485217noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175223805605113309.post-6109530103710640072009-06-08T08:56:30.476-07:002009-06-08T08:56:30.476-07:00School is about getting children to conform. My da...School is about getting children to conform. My daughter is a talker, always has been and very much socially oriented. Because of this, she was difficult to get to focus on work assignments. Many "educators" wanted to label her hyperactive, ADD, yadda yadda. I refused to allow it. You must do your best to control the experts. They have their usefulness but are not infallible. <br /><br />And I just can't bring myself to comment on your last paragraph.Nessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07779269921583131094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175223805605113309.post-79963121401805399602009-06-06T06:16:34.444-07:002009-06-06T06:16:34.444-07:00Don't be sad; you really are making the best d...Don't be sad; you really are making the best decision for your son. We held our daughter back (she repeated the third grade) because of significant challenges in math. I didn't want her to go on to the fourth grade and have her struggles in math impact her performance in her other subjects. It was the best decision we ever made. In her second year of third grade, her math skills improved and more importantly, her confidence and self-esteem blossomed. There's nothing like a child feeling like they're dumb (her feelings because she felt she "couldn't get math") to batter down the walls of self-esteem. As you are doing, we emphasized that being held back was not a negative thing, but rather a positive one, an opportunity for her to have more time to work through the math issues and really understand the concepts. We've never regretted the decision.Pamelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12488927758678871106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175223805605113309.post-82661049241673108292009-06-05T19:14:12.038-07:002009-06-05T19:14:12.038-07:00I can't imagine how difficult this is. If it ...I can't imagine how difficult this is. If it helps I will tell you this. My parents held my youngest brother back one year because he was a young 6 year old. It turned out to be the best thing as he matured to the levels of the students in the class and it gave him confidence socially to attack the learning materials. He went on to become a great student and a star quarterback for the football team. He quit football in high school so he could concentrate on his studies. Got scholarships for college and now works as a Senior VP for his company. All of this before he's 40. He is very successful. Too often being held back is seen as too negative thing when it can be very beneficial.Charhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03851293154388793520noreply@blogger.com